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Sometimes it's good to just say nothing. It forces them to ask themselves what went wrong, leading to period of self evaluation.

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I don't want to explain things. Some things can't be easily explained. When somebody is not available, then he or she will have their reasons. I don't want any explanations either. Some relationships work and some don't. Most relationships only work on certain levels.

Thank you i am dealing with this now and will definitely let a person in my life go

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very good advice. Thank you.

I was very close to my best friend in high school. We managed to stay friends into our early 20s. He moved away so I would visit a couple times a year and always had a great time full of adventure and laughs, but I found each time we were together, I found myself desiring to leave for home earlier and earlier. One long road trip we had together really laid our personalities bare and there were many tense and angry interchanges as it was very clear we had very different ways of approaching challenges and very different values. At the end of the road trip, we were barely speaking and as I left for home, it seemed like our friendship had run its course but I didn't know how to end it. Our communication was infrequent and then a big life change for him resulted in my trying to help him and ultimately relocating and moving in with him. The first couple months were great, then our values and goals really started to clash. The last straw was when he became ridiculously jealous of a woman I had fallen in love with. I resolved to move out but he beat me to it by leaving me a note telling me to leave by the end of the month. Our final month living together was more lighthearted and I think he felt that distance would improve our friendship, but I had other plans. My last day there he went to work and I moved my things out, left the keys on his kitchen counter and locked the door behind me. When I shut that door, I envisioned the cord between he and I being cut and I knew that was the end. I ignored all efforts at communication and moved on with my life. A year later he got me on the phone and, trying to be as calm as possible, I told him our friendship was permanently over. He got very angry and took it very hard, almost like what you would expect between a man and woman breaking up. It was very difficult but necessary to be blunt with him because I had no desire to be around him and my only sentiments were anger and resentment. I struggled for years with that anger towards him but finally was able to let it go after about 10 years. 30 years have now passed and all the sourness is gone and I just have fond memories of our happier times. I still have zero desire to connect with him. Point of all this is -- examine the difficult relationships in your life and assess whether you should move on. I am convinced many people keep other people in their lives out of fear or courtesy. I now know that was the case for me and my friend, but severing that cord was the beginning of a new time of growth and joy in my life.

How do you do this when you work with them

I don't count them on my hand ... I can count mine on a finger!

Wow. Great advice! Thank you❤🙏😊

If I got millions of sperms to impregnate any woman. Why would I spend my time trying to change a cheater to like me. Once a cheater always a cheater. She can go around screwing other slaves. The King is never bothered about such cheap quality women

And walking away! Not in anger, though. Leave anger and revenge out of it. They are total waste of time. We need to be careful in who we surround ourselves with. Be more discriminating, don’t choose people who don’t choose you back or don’t share your values or send of integrity. Your sense of self worth will thank you

Sometimes it’s not even not returning a text, phone call or whatever. Sometimes, when i have been the one making most of the contact, most of the time, I have thought, FINALLY! You know, this feels too one sided to be a real friendship. And every time I have felt that I was right. I walk away silently and never hear peep from this person again. Follow your instincts! Not the right person for you! Congratulations to you for doing the right thing for yourself!

Thank you for your wise words and advice! God bless you! ❤️😍

Hey!!!! I wondered recently as I picked through my library of books for “You Do Know” and here u are. Your videos and book helped me so much.

Once you go, no contact with toxic people and you get rid of one and you realize how much better you feel. It’s very easy to get rid of the others.

Walking away from 2 friends I've known for 18 years. We just aren't close anymore. They are also completely emotionally unavailable. They're my only two friends but they're friendship isn't helping me and only makes me feel worse during these past few years. I got diagnosed with PTSD and they literally had nothing to say, no words of comfort or trying to understand, then the next day they all forgot my birthday. So they'll probably forget we haven't even hung out in months when it hits them. I'm not going to fight for them. If they want to be friends then they'll have to stop being such assholes about everything.

To me it’s done for a long time, but as I a m not jealous neither need revenge, I don’t mind to talk again to someone who is full of venom.

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FAKE ASS FRIEND SAY That to there face cause u can’t fake no more that MASK KEEPS SLIPPING that’s why you don’t wanna cut that friendship off cause u where the phoney one

Or no friends! Just pleasing yourself, I get that most people can’t handle being alone but it truly does make life easier and a lot more stress free.

When I started dating after getting divorced @ 50, one question helped me: "Is this relationship making each of us better people?" Any answer other than an enthusiastic & unreserved "YES!" was grounds for relationship termination. I started applying it to EVERY relationship in my life and it's helped me.

Needed to hear this. Thank you.

I have friends who 10-14 years ago got along well. Then I noticed a destructive pattern where messages were being ghosted. When I saw them at certain gatherings became cold. I had another friend who I got on well with in the first few years. Ten years later he’s now a stranger taking 2 months to answer a text. We were in contact up until the end of last summer. My last few messages were ignored. I haven’t reached out again. So going through my phone call list, I deleted a pile of useless numbers including his.

IRONIC, MY FATHER SAID THE SAME THING. " WHEN YOU DIE YOU CAN COUNT YOUR FRIENDS ON ONE HAND "

An ex friend ghosted me after i met up with her to discuss how i was used at a mutual ex friends wedding. All she could say is i dont remember saying that. Ghosts me then tried to pop up by sending me a message about a person giving away their dog. She then wanted to go to church with me which i dodnt respond because i cabt stand her spouse.

I agree but the language seems harsh for me I would prefer someone articulate the positive feelings or memories we shared with the admission that we are indeed out of alignment and that it’s not good for their journey to continue speaking. Saying things like done over even though accurate is too harsh for me I need a gentle sincere but genuine/authentic letdown

Lost the charger cable for the dog clippers. Can’t buy this cable as nowhere sells this specific cable- had to buy a whole new clipper set from eBay to get the cable. Now the dogs are needing cut again desperately. Go to the cupboard where I KNOW the cable is- and it’s not there. Searched high and low 3 times. It’s just gone from the face of the earth. I already KNOW that I’m going to have to go back to ebay and buy a THIRD set of dog clippers. Why is my life like this? We aren’t hoarders so it’s not like it could be just lying around under something. It’s simply GONE. I feel like punching myself in the face.

What if you lost something in real life then you dream of finding it at work in a drawer?

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WHY ARE YOU CONCERNED ABOUT EMBARRASSING A FAMILY MEMBER WHO HAS STOLEN MIND YOU STO-LEN....ROBBED THE FAMILY OF A PRECIOUS PRICELESS MEANINGFUL PROPERTY THAT CLEARLY WAS NOT INTENDED TO BECOME THAT FAMILY MEMBERS INHERITANCE OR GIFT? WERE THEY CONCERNED ABOUT THE HURT THE WORRY THE SORROW ANGUISH PREOCCUPATION OF MISPLACING THAT PROPERTY THE RELATIVES LAMENTED ABOUT WAS THAT PERSON RESPECTFUL OF RIGHT AND WRONG? SO IF YOU KNEW WHERE THE STOLEN ITEMS WERE IN THEIR ROOM WHY WOULD YOU GIVE UP DOING WHAT WAS RIGHT AND JUDICIAL AND MORALLY ETHICALLY SOUND BY NOT BRINGING EVERYONE IN ON IT BY HAVING WITNESSES BY TAKING THE BAG AND CALLING THE ENTIRE FAMILY TOGETHER INSTEAD OF WORRYING ABOUT EMBARASSING THAT HEARTLESS PERSON? IF IT TRULY DID NOT BELONG TO THAT PERSON THERE IS NO WAY ANYONE WHO WAS THE RIGHTFUL OWNER WOULD SIMPLY SAY...WELL IM AFRAID ILL HURT THIS FAMILY MEMBERS FEELINGS BY TAKING MY FATHERS GOLD WATCH FROM THE HIDING SPOT IN THEIR ROOM....YOU WOULD BE RAISING A HELL AND ANNOUNCING LOOK HERE UNCLE GERALD WHY DO YOU HAVE MY FATHERS GOLD WATCH UNDER YOUR BED TUCKED AWAY...IVE PACKED YOUR BELONGINGS AND NO ONE ELSES THEY ARE AT THE DOOR ALONG WITH A TAXI IVE CALLED IVE PAID THE DRIVER YOU ARE OUT OF HERE GOODBYE ...

I've been on the receiving end of a friend cutting contact and not telling me why and it was painful. And I've told people I didn't want to be friends anymore and they dismissed it. All about the communication really

I often ask if I am being 'negative' or 'self-blaming'... what would you say to your best friend 😊

It sounds like your friend is sharing some insightful advice about prioritizing what truly matters in life. Here's a response that aligns with his perspective: "Absolutely, focusing on what truly enriches our lives and aligns with our values is key. I agree that we often spend too much energy on things that don't contribute much to our overall well-being. It's liberating to embrace the art of not giving a 'fuck' about trivial matters and instead investing our time and energy into what brings us joy and fulfillment. Thanks for sharing such valuable wisdom!" This response acknowledges and appreciates your friend's perspective while also expressing agreement and understanding. It shows that you value their insights and are open to aligning your thinking with theirs. ❤❤❤.. All these things made my heart happy. Thank you very much for this.

Thanks for the reminder.

Love this message, Becky. Thank you for sharing it!

Hello can you please help me. I can't find my gold ring with a purple stone which I bought with my first salary. Thank you.

I cant find my hoody jumper anywhere I think someone stole it but dont know where.as its been cold and wouldnt have taken it off.Also a little bag that you keep crystals in one plain purple one turques flowers one with a crystal pendulum type crystal n one with lil biscuits have dissappeared.it seems so far fetched someone stole these.but i had them safe and now they are vanished. And my mams lil clock has dissappeared. It feels all v odd.why things dissapearing. I sent you a message on fb

I lost my mother's engagement ring in 2020 and I can't find it. I live in Jacksonville, FL and I'm moving back to where my family is in New Hampshire. I don't want to have to leave this ring in Jacksonville, FL and I want to find it. I just hope that it's not on some girls finger.

Thanks Becky, that was really helpful. I had to let go of my Russian friend in Moscow because of her support for Putin, which I naively hadn't even considered previously - and the war has made that worse - so I had to send her a 'fond farewell' message last week, and then realised I was grieving. So this has really helped. Big thanks to you and a big hug for this. Bless. ❤

Thank you for this.

Stand up for yourself set boundaries speak up even if it’s your family. My stepmom used to say horrible things to me and my father just let it go. Kind of brainwashed myself into thinking it was normal..

I had 3 sessions with Becky in 2022. She was so great on so many axes that I sorta wish I had more problems to bring to her so that I could talk to her more.

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This is the first video that I've actually found helpful. Everyone talking about putting a bubble you around you that's absolutely impossible you cannot just switch off and put a bubble around you and stop feeling everything that you feel all the time. But the videos given me a great realization and to insight As to the type of feelings on people that I respond to the easiest that negative feelings are feelings that tend to be more intense and more powerful and the influence of the environment itself with a natural longing and desire to love people how can one love people when all you do is feel or their negative traits but their negative traits are humanistic of this material plain and we all feel them because we've all been bought up in a world that's ruined us. A world that's trained us to think about I am and be individualistic but selfish I world that teaches us not to think about our community and to think about our planet and our environment. A world that doesn't teach us our true spirituality and identity of where we actually come from the saw the Earth itself. So how can we expect to feel many positive feelings when everyone around us is switched off I'm not even aware of their own feelings. It's making me realize that there needs to be more in a work for me myself to be able to feel people's good feelings to be able to feel and recognize the I know there needs to be good without bad and there is good and bad within everyone but it takes a lot more intuition and feeling to be able to feel the good feelings as they are so rare. Seems so in my own experience with past karma's Maybe the feelings that we feel the next experience are the feelings that we need in this lifetime.

Hi Becky, I was divinely guided to your video. I have misplaced two jewelry sets that are incredibly valuable either at my apartment or in my mom’s closet. I remember wrapping one of them in cotton and placing them in a small camel colored tote bag and placing them safely somewhere. But now cannot locate them anywhere. I wanted to wear one of the sets and to my surprise I couldn’t locate it anywhere. I am extremely careful with all my jewelry and am very shocked this is misplaced. If you could help me I would be most grateful, any insight would be appreciated. Thank you…

My lifestyle doesn't seem to mesh with most women my age. They don't get me and I don't get them. I find activity buddies, but trying to foster healthy long term relationships with other women is next to impossible for me. I enjoy doing some things alone and maybe I need to do it even more. I walk away from most people and new ones come in. I might have 2-3 lifetime friends

If we don't know how to stop finding life difficult and scary, it is emotionally easier in some ways to find more difficult and scary things than to move past the emotions. All that doomscrolling justifies our scaredness. It's like when people seemingly need to tell you how great their life is - at some point, are they trying to convince you, or themselves?